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Some time has passed since I visited this site. Hope you'll look it over and check out the new content such as an announcement about:

Twist of Fate

It just came out with a new cover, new price and now...available in digital form as an Ebook through Kindle.



I recently signed on with Venture Galleries who will act as my media publicists. Soon I'll be contributing a weekly blog to their website: www.venturegalleries.com. Hope you'll come check it out.

Speaking about blogs, for some time now I've been posting a blog about writing on my other website: www.pineywoodsbooks.webs.com

Hope you'll come by and check it out.  That's where you'll find everything you want to know about my books.




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Six Tips For Living With a Depressed Person

  1. Try to be considerate, thoughtful and empathic. If your spouse had a physical injury, you would expect that their abilities and energy would be restricted, that they would be in pain at times, and that they couldn't heal themselves more quickly just because you wanted them to. Thin about depression the same way.
  2. Don't be provocative. Every relationship has the little hot buttons that can start a fight at any time. Dirty socks on the floor, the remote control misplaced, the car low on gas. You know what your partner's buttons are. Don't push them while he/she is in a depressed state.
  3. Small acts of kindness are appreciated, and do help, even if the recipient doesn't reciprocate. Every time my husband leaves the house, my husband makes a point of kissing me goodbye. Even though I don't usually act very enthused,I would feel worse, lonely and unloved, without his attention.
  4. Easing your partner's burden in small ways can help a great deal. Offer to do the shopping, empty the garbage, do the laundry, take the kids out for pizza. It communicates more than words the feeling that you understand how difficult these mundane chores can seem at times.
  5. "Advance directives" can be a contract loved ones arrange while the sufferer is not depressed, describing what to do when depression sets in. It can be in stages: stage 1, leave me alone; stage 2, be kind, patient, and attentive; stage 3, insist I call my therapist; stage 4, take me to the hospital. 
  6. Take the trouble to educate yourself. Learn all you can about depression. Be willing to talk to your friend's therapist. It's amazing how seeing it in print, or hearing it from an authority, can change your perspective. Even if you believe you understand that depression is a disease, that the patient doesn't have to be depressed, etc., etc., you need all the education you can get. These are facts we don't want to believe. Learning the facts helps you help your friend, and also shows that you care enough to take some trouble.

c Richard O'Connor